TY - BOOK AU - Bauer-Maglin,Nan AU - Bernays,Anne AU - Braham,Susanne AU - Butler,Edie AU - Clarke Wadham,Elisa AU - Derry,Alice AU - Dugan,Penelope AU - Dunham,Kelli AU - Finney,Melanie K. AU - Fordyce,Kathleen AU - Friedensohn,Doris AU - Froschl,Merle AU - Goode-Elman,Alice AU - Gussow,Joan AU - Hajizadeh,Parvin AU - Hernandez,Michele Neff AU - Hirshman,Andrea AU - Jaffe Robbins,Sonia AU - Kaplan,Deborah E. AU - Leung,Jean Y. AU - Life,Patricia AU - Madagame,Maggie AU - Marshall,Maxine AU - Marwell,Barbara AU - Marwell,Barbara E. AU - Mayer,Debby AU - McEneny,Molly A. AU - Mceneny,Molly AU - Menn,Lise AU - Michelson,Joan AU - Milcendeau,Tracy AU - Moorehead,P.C. AU - Moorehead,P.C. AU - Neff Hernandez,Michele AU - Radosh,Alice AU - Ramkhelawan,Raquel AU - Ramos,Roni Sherman AU - Robbins,Sonia Jaffe AU - Sabharwal,Tara AU - Schrecker,Ellen AU - Schwartz,Mimi AU - Shamban,Nancy AU - Sherman Ramos,Roni AU - Silverstein,Christine AU - Slawecki,Heather AU - Temple,Kathryn AU - Vanett,Lauren AU - Wadham,Elisa Clark AU - West,Carrie L. AU - Womack,Nancy H. TI - Widows' Words: Women Write on the Experience of Grief, the First Year, the Long Haul, and Everything in Between SN - 9780813599571 U1 - 306.88/3 23 PY - 2019///] CY - New Brunswick, NJ : PB - Rutgers University Press, KW - Bereavement KW - Grief KW - Widows in literature KW - Widows KW - SELF-HELP / General KW - bisacsh KW - widow, memoir, grief, strength, partner, widowhood, mother, parenthood, resilience, death, loss, suicide, deceased, bereavement N1 - Frontmatter --; CONTENTS --; Introduction --; Part I: Prologue—Expectant Widows --; What We Were Afraid Of: A Memoir --; The Queen Has Spoken --; Living a Life --; Preparing for the Journey through Grief --; Deserted/Dumped for a Second Time --; From Pre-Widow to Merry Widow --; Part II: Recent Widows --; A Widow’s Notes: The First Six Months --; My Other Half --; The Cloak --; “The Most Precious Fit”: A Dialogue with C. S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed --; On Grief --; Wedding Rings --; The Afterlife of an Archive --; A Healing Garden --; You See, I Told You So! --; Yes, I Miss My Husband, but I’m Also Discovering the Pleasures of Living Alone --; Part III: Long-Time Widows --; The Grief Convention --; 10 Scary Things I Have Done since My Husband Died --; Being Alone --; Re-creating My Life --; Becoming Maggie --; Who I Am Revealed --; Losing the Artist, Living with His Art --; After the Aftermath --; Three Poems --; Part IV: Unique Takes or Digging Deeper --; Widow-to- Widow --; Parenting as a Widow --; Memories of a Widow’s Daughter --; Lost Acts . . . --; Dealing with Double Loss: Husband and Hearing --; Synchronicity and the Secular Mind --; Mourning American-Style --; The Rocks That Bind --; On Not Feeling Sad --; What They Don’t Tell You --; Nine Things Resilient People Do after Losing a Spouse or Partner --; Make Lemonade?! --; Part V: Epilogue --; The Missing Vow --; ACKNOWLEDGMENTS --; ARTIST’S STATEMENT --; NOTES ON CONTRIBUTORS; restricted access N2 - Becoming a widow is one of the most traumatic life events that a woman can experience. Yet, as this remarkable new collection reveals, each woman responds to that trauma differently. Here, forty-three widows tell their stories, in their own words. Some were widowed young, while others were married for decades. Some cared for their late partners through long terminal illnesses, while others lost their partners suddenly. Some had male partners, while others had female partners. Yet each of these women faced the same basic dilemma: how to go on living when a part of you is gone. Widows’ Words is arranged chronologically, starting with stories of women preparing for their partners’ deaths, followed by the experiences of recent widows still reeling from their fresh loss, and culminating in the accounts of women who lost their partners many years ago but still experience waves of grief. Their accounts deal honestly with feelings of pain, sorrow, and despair, and yet there are also powerful expressions of strength, hope, and even joy. Whether you are a widow yourself or have simply experienced loss, you will be sure to find something moving and profound in these diverse tales of mourning, remembrance, and resilience UR - https://doi.org/10.36019/9780813599571 UR - https://www.degruyter.com/isbn/9780813599571 UR - https://www.degruyter.com/cover/covers/9780813599571.jpg ER -